that's knot right

the top knot/bun/swirl is my go to hairstyle every day when i get home from work, but according to this tutorial i've been doing it all wrong! i usually just gather my hair into a high pony, spin it around, double wrap it with a hair tie and hope it doesn't fall out. this seems much more secure. will definitely be trying this tonight.

 

via cup of jo

"i'm trying to save money"

as a newlyweds with a lot of plans for the future - you know, the whole buy a house, have kids scenario - sean and i have been really good about saving money lately. we've been putting money aside, staying home a lot more, cooking meals together, sucking netflix for all it's worth, reading books for the first time in months - and it feels great! 

yet, all that money we're saving means for the future means we can't do all the things we want to do now. and that's okay with me, but sometimes it can be awkward telling a friend or family member that you can't afford to do/buy something. just that phrase "i can't afford it" can be embarrassing and "can't" is such a negative word. but this morning i realized - it's all in how you say it. below is an excerpt from today's wise bread e-newsletter on How to Be Frugal (Without Becoming a Hermit).

Be Honest

Turning down invitations to dinners or vacations with “I can’t afford it” may be honest, but it also frames your lack of funds as a sort of affliction to which you’re forced to submit. Instead, try saying, “I’m trying to save money.” Then follow it up with an invitation to something you can afford later in the week. This way, it sounds like you’re making the decision rather than letting your bank balance lead you along. I also find this phrase strikes a different note when you use it. Rather than feeling sorry for you, people tend to nod emphatically, tell you that’s a good idea, and say they should really be getting into that saving business, too. Plus, by matching your rejection of their invitation with an invitation of your own, you can avoid looking like a jerk.

I love this idea. "I'm trying to save money." In our case it's actually true, because honestly we could "afford" to do a lot more than what we're doing, but I don't really want to. Buying a house and saving for a family is way more important to me than hitting up the bars or going on a shopping spree. if that makes me "boring" to some friends, then so be it. they'll be in our shoes one day too.

how do you save money? what helps you get through those tough "I want to buy everything!" days?

ever have one of those days?

i had plans to meet my friend lisa for lunch today at 1, except when i was ready to leave there was no one around to cover the department. when two of my coworkers finally showed up, i rushed out of the office so fast i forgot to email my friend to say i was leaving and also left my debit card on my desk. another trip up and down our excruciatingly slow elevator, and i was out the front doors before i could realize it was raining and i didn't have an umbrella. i started thinking to myself "i'm not meant to go to lunch today. something bad is going to happen."

 i made it safely across the street and through the hospital halls to the double doors of the cafeteria. then as i rounded the corner my left shoe slipped out from under me, rolling my ankle and causing me to start a really looooong, embarrassing, trying-not-to-fall-on-my-ass shuffle/dance while pulling one of the magnetic cafeteria doors off the wall. wow. i'm sure i must have been a sight to see.

despite the pitfalls, lunch with Lisa was fun and my ankle feels fine. that said, i must now assume that all of these warning signs were pointing toward food poisoning from the taco salad i just inhaled. wish me luck and i'll keep you posted.

but seriously, does this ever happen to you? everything that could go wrong, does go wrong and you start to think . . . is this a sign that i shouldn't be doing what i'm about to be doing?

i'm "hangry"

haha. i am totally guilty of this.

sweet home style

i love the blog sweet home style because it's just that - simple photos of sweet homes with great style. no profiles, no how to's, just picture after picture of living space inspiration. per a call for submissions i just sent in this recent snapshot of our little home for two. i hope it makes it! i'd love to see what people comment.

here i am

If anyone is still reading this blog, sorry for leaving you with such a huge cliffhanger back in November! We did indeed get married. Saturday, April 7, 2012 was a beautiful day and one I will never forget thanks to my amazing best-friend-turned-husband, bridesmaids, family and friends.

I will dedicate individual posts to our wedding, honeymoon, and what it feels like to be a wife soon, but I just wanted to say (after seven months) that I'm back and intend to post at least once per week until death to us part. it's a new goal of mine along with working out once a day and reading one book per month. let's see if i can keep it up!

also, just out of curiosity, if you're reading this post - can you make a comment? i'm going to keep blogging either way, i just want to see who's still with me . . . [crickets] . . . anyone?